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Am I depressed?
Last Post 2/11/2019 11:18 PM by Edisson08. 16 Replies.
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Betty Posts:10
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6/2/2010 3:15 PM
Between my medical issues and trying to take care of my elderly parents I am always dragging. I think it is beginning to depress me. I do not see any joy to life anymore. I work all day; stop at my parents to get their dinner; do their yard work and other chores; pick up groceries, prescritions,etc.;and them come home to my own household chores. My coworkers say I look tired and am not the fun person I use to be. I just don't have the time to pamper myself anymore. I feel like my only link to being alive is that I am here to take care of my parents. I live alone, so there is no spousal support. I am afraid the time is coming where we will have to merge into one household. I will have no privacy at all. Neither of us has the money to pay someone to come in and help.
Sal Posts:11
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6/3/2010 2:51 PM
Betty,

My mother went through a depression when she and dad got divorced. We finally got her to go to the doctor and he put her on a low dose depression medication. This helped her a lot. Even if you are not depressed you may have something else wrong, like vitamin deficiencies. The doctor can tell with a simple blood test.
Flo Posts:3
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6/3/2010 3:17 PM
Since my mother's stroke, I have lost interest in all the activities that I once enjoyed. I no longer get to be with my friends. I noticed that I have not been taking care of myself. Just getting by. There just is not enough time in a day for me to accomplish all that is expected of me from my job, my parents' needs, my daughter and also my friends. I just don't see a way out. I love my mother and I feel guilty feeling this way. She has alot of needs right now and totally depends on me.
gia123 Posts:8
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7/2/2010 10:52 AM
I think it is important to be good to yourself and realize that you have needs too.
Cat Posts:11
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3/25/2011 1:13 PM
There is nothing wrong with being put on medication for depression. If you think you are depressed, talk about it with your Doctor. Depression is a true medical condition.
judy strano Posts:1
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6/28/2011 4:25 PM

Posted By Flo on 03 Jun 2010 03:17 PM
Since my mother's stroke, I have lost interest in all the activities that I once enjoyed. I no longer get to be with my friends. I noticed that I have not been taking care of myself. Just getting by. There just is not enough time in a day for me to accomplish all that is expected of me from my job, my parents' needs, my daughter and also my friends. I just don't see a way out. I love my mother and I feel guilty feeling this way. She has alot of needs right now and totally depends on me.

Hello, I totally relate to you. I am in almost the same situation. I am my 89 year old mom's ONLY support. I am actually considering a mild anti-depressant because I feel, like you, overwhelmed. I hate to burden my friends and children with my issues and that it makes it even harder to deal with. Of course sometimes I let it all out to a dear friend but I find myself wishing that I didn't. I hate to be the gloomy friend!
I hope that we can stay in touch. It helps just to know that I am not alone.
I wish you some stress free time, Judy
Carol Posts:3
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7/7/2011 3:48 PM
I am taking care of my 72 year old husband, i am 65. He is an alcoholic who has had a heart attack, surgery for a severe infection in his left knee(6 weeks in rehad) and a stroke (one month in rehab) After his rehabs he did not continue with any of his exercises and now just sits on the couch and watches tv of sleeps. Hid can do nothing with his right hand and suffles when he walks. I find myself getting resentful at times because he didn't even try. He now can do nothing to help around the house or outside. I am so tired i just want to get away and relax but I can't leave him for any leght of time. I am on antidepressents but they just take the edge off.
Carol Posts:3
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7/7/2011 3:48 PM
I am taking care of my 72 year old husband, i am 65. He is an alcoholic who has had a heart attack, surgery for a severe infection in his left knee(6 weeks in rehad) and a stroke (one month in rehab) After his rehabs he did not continue with any of his exercises and now just sits on the couch and watches tv of sleeps. Hid can do nothing with his right hand and suffles when he walks. I find myself getting resentful at times because he didn't even try. He now can do nothing to help around the house or outside. I am so tired i just want to get away and relax but I can't leave him for any leght of time. I am on antidepressents but they just take the edge off.
Carol Posts:3
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7/7/2011 3:48 PM
I am taking care of my 72 year old husband, i am 65. He is an alcoholic who has had a heart attack, surgery for a severe infection in his left knee(6 weeks in rehad) and a stroke (one month in rehab) After his rehabs he did not continue with any of his exercises and now just sits on the couch and watches tv of sleeps. Hid can do nothing with his right hand and suffles when he walks. I find myself getting resentful at times because he didn't even try. He now can do nothing to help around the house or outside. I am so tired i just want to get away and relax but I can't leave him for any leght of time. I am on antidepressents but they just take the edge off.
JC Posts:13
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7/15/2011 10:35 AM

Posted By Carol on 07 Jul 2011 03:48 PM
I am taking care of my 72 year old husband, i am 65. He is an alcoholic who has had a heart attack, surgery for a severe infection in his left knee(6 weeks in rehad) and a stroke (one month in rehab) After his rehabs he did not continue with any of his exercises and now just sits on the couch and watches tv of sleeps. Hid can do nothing with his right hand and suffles when he walks. I find myself getting resentful at times because he didn't even try. He now can do nothing to help around the house or outside. I am so tired i just want to get away and relax but I can't leave him for any leght of time. I am on antidepressents but they just take the edge off.

My parents situation is similar. Mom has scheduled a couple days at the beach in September with her sisters (long overdue)and has asked some of dads siblings to take turns with dad's caregiving. She is looking forward to this trip and it will do her a world of good. I think it will help dad to see what is involved in his daily caregiving.
tinalouise Posts:1
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8/4/2011 12:55 PM
I am married to a man who has Muscular distrophy and I feel like I am his caregiver instead of his wife I do not get any affection I am the one who has to be the man in the marriage I have to do all the work in sex and any heavy lifting he falls allot so i put myself in front of him to break his fall I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and went through that alone and now I am really lonley and deppressed I can't leave the house and i can't stop crying
Kristen Posts:10
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8/5/2011 10:29 AM

Posted By tinalouise on 04 Aug 2011 12:55 PM
I am married to a man who has Muscular distrophy and I feel like I am his caregiver instead of his wife I do not get any affection I am the one who has to be the man in the marriage I have to do all the work in sex and any heavy lifting he falls allot so i put myself in front of him to break his fall I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and went through that alone and now I am really lonley and deppressed I can't leave the house and i can't stop crying

I though I would have filled the Atlantic Ocean with all my tears by now. I get what your saying except for what you went through with the breast cancer. Sorry, that's a real bummer. I never felt so isolated. I had to learn to reach out to friends, family, church, and area agencies. I got so desperate. I know that I may not be rewarded in this life but I sure look forward to brownie points in my next life. The section in this website, Health Resources, has some good information in the Living Well section that may be helpful to you, especially the Taking Care of Yourself article. A lot of websites talk about care giver burnout. sounds like you are beyond burnout and I hope you are able to reach out and get the help you need. I learned that I had to be the one to do the reaching out, people do not know how to reach out to you or are just scared to make the first step.
DD Posts:14
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9/26/2011 1:40 PM
Didn't think I was but the doctor says I am. He put me on medication and my family says they see a difference in me. I guess depression comes in various forms. I blamed my age thought it was some how I was going to feel after some recent surgery. Go figure!
Vio Posts:11
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12/9/2011 11:58 AM
Starting with the holidays and through February, depression and burnout are at their worst. Be sure to be on the watch for those dark days settling upon you and take steps to pull out of it. Take some time for yourself and regenerate. It makes things go more smoothly.
Ron Posts:12
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3/7/2012 2:53 PM
The thing about depression is that you have to admit it first. She keeps saying she is just overwhelmed. ????
George Posts:2
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11/9/2012 3:28 PM
It seems like more people are on medication for depression. Several of our friends are taking medication for depression or anzxiety and they say it helps. The number one things as a caregiver is to take care good care of yourself too.
Edisson08 Posts:1
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2/11/2019 11:18 PM
Hi guys, i have a depressive disorder, me and my 10 yrs boyfriend got broke up last weekend and I feel horrible for what happened to us. I love him with all my heart when he just met this girl somewhere I don't know. That's why I don't want anybody to talk to me or even ask me how i feel right now. I only want to stay in my room and lay in bed then browsing the net. But upon browsing, i read this https://www.greenmed.io/blog/cbd-an...epression/ that really got my attention. I want to take marijuana as well but it has good benefits and it can cure my depression. Does anybody try using MJ as a medicine? Care to reply. Thanks.
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