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When Do I Get a Break?

by Deah on Sunday, August 10, 2014 9:14 AM

As I was driving this morning, I found myself starting to tear up about the things left undone at home and company coming later this week, staying through the weekend.

Then the self talk took over and asked: what am I upset about? The house will only get dirty again, no one will go hungry, and my siblings are just going to have to step up for a few days for Mom and Dad. While that held back the tears and got me through the morning, the nagging thoughts have started again.

These days Mother and Dad seem to be in need of more and more caregiving. Mother can still drive and that helps with some of their errands and appointments - but they still live in a big home and are not able to keep up with all of the maintenance, mowing, gardening, and cleaning, etc. Since mother was just in the hospital for a while, someone had to stay with Dad for the better part of that time. Needless to say, I did more than my fair share. But, I also needed to take care of my own home and responsibilities. The reason for the tears.

I am one of those natural born caregivers, wanting to do what I can to help others but sometimes I really need to remind myself to put the brakes on, which does not happen often enough. I love helping them out, and they do show appreciation. The other day mom gave me a basket that I have loved since the day she got it. It is not an antique or expensive, it is just pretty. That tells me that the sacrifices one makes as a caregiver do not always go unnoticed and that we are appreciated, we just need to look for the little rewards.

However, I must be showing signs of weariness because my daughters have invited me for a few days of pampering in honor of something they saw on the internet called "National Relaxation Day on August 15." Who knew there may really be such a day? So Monday morning I am packing my bags and heading out the door. As the song goes, it's time to just “Let Go” - and with a little more self talk I am going to relax and enjoy myself.

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Lori Paterno, M.Ed. Has a Masters Degree in Rehabilitation Counseling From Penn State University.  She has over 20 years professional experience in Human Services, Counseling, and Education.

Lori Paterno, M.Ed. Has a Masters Degree in Rehabilitation Counseling From Penn State University.  She has over 20 years professional experience in Human Services, Counseling, and Education. 
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