I recently read some articles on compensation for the family caregiver. Whether the funds come from the care recipient, other siblings, etc., it has been found to reduce stress and guilt. The caregiver in this one article had to give up her job in order to take care of her mother. The family worked out a solution to their mothers needs by mom moving in and mom's income was divided between her personal needs and compensation to the caregiver. The siblings said that this was a big relieve to them because they then felt better about most of the care falling on one sibling. They did set up schedules for certain days per month where they would get mom and relieve the caregiver for a while. Mom does not feel as much as a burden. Being a primary caregiver of a parent myself and asking for nothing, I liked this idea. I'm thinking about calling a family meeting to discuss this with my siblings. What thoughts do you have?

Posted By mfay on 15 Sep 2011 10:18 AM
I recently read some articles on compensation for the family caregiver. Whether the funds come from the care recipient, other siblings, etc., it has been found to reduce stress and guilt. The caregiver in this one article had to give up her job in order to take care of her mother. The family worked out a solution to their mothers needs by mom moving in and mom's income was divided between her personal needs and compensation to the caregiver. The siblings said that this was a big relieve to them because they then felt better about most of the care falling on one sibling. They did set up schedules for certain days per month where they would get mom and relieve the caregiver for a while. Mom does not feel as much as a burden. Being a primary caregiver of a parent myself and asking for nothing, I liked this idea. I'm thinking about calling a family meeting to discuss this with my siblings. What thoughts do you have?

not all family members see things alike. there are families who would resent an arrangement like this. They don't want the work but they don't want anyone else to get any of their inheritance. GREED kills the best of intentions